177 days with my grandson !

       “ A child is like a butterfly in the wind

          Some can fly higher than the others ;   

               but each one flies the best it can .

          Why compare one with the other ?

           Each one is different , each one is special

                      Each one is beautiful  

                                        Anonymous 

             I decided to undertake an eighteen hour journey , across the oceans just to spend some valuable time with my two and a half year old ! I thought it was important for him  to know his kith and kin as he grew up , especially being on an alien land . He needed to know our culture ,our rich heritage and our history.  I was keen he started understanding and speaking at least two Indian languages . English came to him naturally in any case . I had a few basic aspirations for him .  Eating home cooked meals and not making French fries , pizza and burgers as his staple . Taking up some hobby around the house , trying to help his mother ,so that he could grow up to be sufficiently independent . Yes , these classes often went through the roof with no stop in sight for the little one as he pranced around and kept repeating the words laughing  aloud . His large beautiful eyes spoke more than he expressed .

             I honestly cannot pinpoint at which moment during my  sojourn there, did I  unleash the child  within me ! I saw Vardaan grow month after month , a little bigger , more naughtier , trying to be more persuasive and more expressive .  His vocabulary seemed to be exceptional for a two and a half year old and  he had  become candidly chatty.  He wanted to speak like an adult at the fastest and questioned when in doubt ! He used to come out with rather funny words like ‘ Poisomus  Creme‘ just because we used to prevail upon him not to lick his body lotion and creme  since it was poisonous . His barrage of questions was never ending . He wanted to ape each of us in behaviour and speech .  He was forever confused whether he should call us  Appacha and Ammachy in Malayalam ( for grandparents )or Papa and Mama like his parents addressed us . After the initial few days he decided to sleep between  the two of us in our bed . He would come with his ‘ cudally , cudally ‘ pillow  ( read as cuddly ) and his softy , softy blanket along with MITER ( Mr ) TUTU his favourite teddy who was as tall as him . Tutu was his first Christmas gift from us . He was christened Tutu by my husband because we were on the brink of the year 2022 ! He had nick named his stuffed toys with all kinds of fascinating  names like  Mr Monu , Mr Capy , Mr Myrtle , Mr Cuddles  etc and this entire entourage would find their way to our bed . He  was very particular that we said good night to each of them , which could be sometimes so vigorous to the extent of stifling us !! 

      Then came the season of story telling . He was more interested in listening to real time stories and  would also suggest the plot . Initially it began with two cops and two thieves and this would be re-enacted many times over . Finally he knew the story verbatim and before I could come to the next line he would tell me what came ahead ! “ Mama there was a big cave in the forest “ and the size of the cave would be extended by both his little hands so much so that it would hit his grandfather’s  head with a thud which was not so welcome to him who was in zee zee land already ! His admiration for the cops there was tremendous , especially the siren on their vehicle . Showing our photograph his mother told Varu that his grandfather was in the Army at one point in time . Soon came the retort “ it is called the cop army Mama “ ! He has such a sense of present wit that he can make anybody burst  into splits of laughter. The  IQ for a little midget of his age is staggering . He can give uninterrupted attention to conversations and is an excellent transmitter !The minute somebody rings the door bell , lo and behold our man is there with his adorable social graces . My little elf would be soon transformed into the best kid in the lane with everybody loading him with compliments ! The other side of the coin seemed to be meant only for us to see !! One day when the bell rang , his mother asked him who it was . This was the time our toddler was trying his hand with long sentences and eloquent words . What he replied was really funny . “ Mom there is nobody people there “!

Although this little poppet is our personal physician at home ; even extending his benevolence to the neighbors but when he had to go to his pediatrician , it was quite a nightmare ! At home when he went overboard washing his trucks and toys , I kept reminding him of his  Dr Shetty in case he caught a cough or cold !! At first he used to plead not to do so giving the excuse “Amma can’t you see how messy it is ?” but since it became once too often and irresistible for him , he told me “ Mama please bring Dr Chetty ( Shetty ) . I am not scared!"  Indeed sacred games of different kind !! 

Another episode I cannot forget is when my son ‘s Audi had a flat and he called the way side service , this little man was all eyes and ears . Next day onwards , he started opening out the wheels of each of his toy cars and trucks including his tricycles. Finally what was left was a a pile of junk yard cars . His experiments came forthwith before he forgot the subject .The gleam in his eyes with a hint of a smile never stopped intriguing  me. I knew that the little computer was working overtime in his little head!

His gait is very commanding . Hands locked behind , penchant for dressing  ( to which his mother was a major contributor ), then he would come running to me for brushing his hair , baby lotion on his face and a small request in my ears “ put some parpume ( perfume ) ! Indulging him in these fun things was my passion . Finally one look in the mirror and he would ask “ am I handshome “ ! I could hear his mom shout out from their room “ handsome is what handsome does “ !!

      We all love music in the family and my son  sings beautifully and plays the guitar . Sure it is in this little one ‘s genes as well . He loves hearing his father sing and loves to hear songs play on the google . One of my favourite hobbies is to hear the evergreen oldies too. Very soon I was  dumbfounded to hear this cutie sing the first two lines of the song “ Deewana hua Badal “ ! That was the start point of our singing and drama classes ! Without much delay , he started giving commands to ‘ Aunty Google ‘. “ ok google play Deewana hua Badal by Asha Bhonsle and Mohammed Rafi from the film Kashmir ki Kali “ I was absolutely mystified at this rapid fire round from him . Without much of a time lapse , he graduated to singing a whole stanza and by the time we left , he could somehow sing the whole track with his cute words sprinkled in . For example instead of  ‘ mehaboob ‘ it would be mehabooj and when it came to the “ Aha , ha , ha , ha , ha “ part he would make a quick little shake of his  little bottom and watch whether we were approving !  Very soon he moved on to Rajesh Khanna’s songs  and the amusement of it all was when he one day requested me “ Mama can you please call Shammi Kapoor and Sharmila Tagore to my house ? “ That took the cake ! Usually instead of beating around the bush I like to give him simple and straight forward answers as I used to do with my son . But this time I was bemused how to explain  that this hero he so revered had crossed the rainbow bridge . Finally after much brain scratching I conceded defeat and told him that I would try my best ! 

       My grandie is a very affable toddler and a people ‘s person . He loves having people over including the little dogs who cross their home on walks . He would never fail to greet anybody and introduce himself and ask them their names and what they did . When folks clinked glasses and said ‘ cheers ‘ he would run and get his little tumbler with juice or water and do the same saying “ cheers to good times “ ! Seemed like one of   yesterday ‘s Kingfisher airlines advertisement ! The  orange  lips which the juice left alongside his mature etiquettes always brought a giggle to me . Once we were invited by a friend to dinner and they were enquiring of our choice of drink . Pat came a little voice from somewhere  “ I’ll have  wine” !

He has a great deal of equanimity . When we both had to go out , he would come darting and hold  our hands lest we slip anywhere . He would then say “ now walk very slow-ly  Appacha , Ammachy . Similarly when we got back , he would rush to my side of the SUV to open it and I had to put up an act of him helping me out ! From carrying light to moderately heavy groceries he did it all . His gentlemanly garb would get frayed only when he used to decide to experiment with the naughty side of him ! Under the elastic label of ‘ helping ‘ , he would squeeze out some water from his bottle , run for the mop and start wiping up the area till his mom caught him red handed . 

       We had gifted him a ‘ Doctor ‘s  set ‘ few months ago . Since I had a bad back , he used to come with his bag and ask me whether I have a BUBU ( hurt ) . Then he would wear his specs and check the heartbeat ,  poke something into my nose and give two three jabs left right and centre and finally an all ok certificate and scoots  ! His favourite cartoon character is BLIPPY and sure he learnt  quite a lot from him . Came Halloween and our little man decided to dress like BLIPPY . His favoritism for  ROOMBA was unparalleled . On many a night before bed he would hug me and say “ Ammachy I love you tooooo much ; more than the ROOMBA and its docking station !! I realised this was his  highest standard of love . It was more than an award for me !

       The Sun God slowly started smiling and the cold began receding . We wanted to start a garden going for them . My littlest member was the most enthusiastic . We got him a gardening set and pair of gloves which could house one more set of little hands in them . Yet he would diligently wear them and be with us trying to pull tufts of grass , calling himself CESARO ( the name of their gardener ) till this phase of messing  around was over ! Initially he felt pinching flowers was normal . Then I thought of a novel idea . I told him that he is in charge of the garden and must take care of it well and water it  till I came next ! I think this is working well . Then there is LORENA who is a house keeper who comes to clean the house . The moment she is in , the little sweetie would be after her calling her name in a sing song manner “ LORAAIINA did you wash your hands ? did you wipe your hands on my Papa ‘s towel ? ! “ I don’t think it would have been much of a problem for Hank Ketcham to have written the cartoon strip Dennis the Menace and make Dennis so delightful and captivating so much so I am still in love with him. The author would have to just  watch few children like mine closely and boom would pop out a Mr Dennis ! My children just told me that after I got back to my Indian shores ,  my little one has almost turned to be a singing minstrel like those specialist entertainers of the 1830s visiting their neighbours and singing all the Hindi songs he knew while they went about their chores. I miss his drools and tight hugs .They oozed with affection.

         Vardaan means ‘A BOON ‘ in Sanskrit .  All what I want to tell you son  is that  “ I love you to the moon and back ”! This phrase originated from one of the best selling picture books ‘ Guess how much I love you ‘ by Sam Mc Bratney. Till we meet again Verdi for more frolic and fun .  Be like the anemone - carefree , bright and beautiful and keep fluttering in the breeze . Your innocent laughter and pranks will always remind me of a packaged box of rainbows and sunshine .      

The Scent of the Pines

 My love for travel is inextricably linked to savoring beauty and learning about the countless cultures of our vast country .I would love to go back and sit at an old fashioned table by the glow of a hurricane lamp and pen down innumerable memories almost getting smudged with the vagaries of time .

I lived two knockout years of my life at DHARAMSHALA in the winsome state of Himachal Pradesh ; bordered by the breathtaking view of the formidable Dauladhar ranges.

 The house in which we lived , an old fashioned British bungalow, built by a certain Col Neil was already a hundred years old ! The house was aptly named STILL BROOK owing to the gurgling stream flowing near by lapping against scores of interesting looking pebbles and moss ridden rocks .

Due to the huge earthquake that struck the Kangra valley in 1905 , our vintage home had been literally sliced into half and there were only the bigger debris which was visibly seen lying around as some integral part of the brook . The flooring still remained , a grim reminder of that horrendous day of history . The stables were in a shattered state too . I would sit in our lawn and see the brook spout and spurt ringing musical notes in my ears , as I often jotted down a page or two ; imagining a glorious bygone era , the bungalow replete in all its glory , horses and horsemen with the ‘ Gora Saheb ‘ with their silver spurs . My imagination would thus take wings !

Each season flitted by like a kaleidoscope . The candy floss toned sunsets in spring , to the greyish dark clouds which threatened to bring down buckets of rain , to the white snowy winters along with its flora and fauna were absolutely mesmeric . 

Summers made birds and butterflies congregate in our garden dipping into the flowers of contrasting hues while chameleons pranced around in gay abandon .We were surrounded by a pine forest which was endowed with floral notes of their own . The scent of the pines used to be very predominant during the summers . The children used to slither down the slopes of the hills slipping on the pine needles bruising their elbows and knees but not giving up on the fun and frolic they had ! During the rains the fog would hang heavily like a thick curtain. Would you be surprised if I said that the fog had its own fragrance . Open the doors and it would simply wisp in like an uninvited sinister guest !!

September to November was a welcome interlude from the harsh rain and frost . My son and I would sit in the sunshine as often as we could and chase the sun with our garden chairs till the warmth of the Surya Dev would slowly fade away giving space to a cool nip in the air . Col Neil may have left Still Brook eons ago but seemed to have left a chef behind !! As far as my memory goes , I must have baked the maximum where the ‘ FAUJ ‘ gave us the opportunity to call our home . From Apple pies to Diplomat puddings to Rum cakes et al !

Tourists flocked from all over to see the Dalai Lama ‘s monastery to trekking down the hills and walking down the alleys of McLeod Ganj . 

It was mystical to hear the Lamas chant their prayers turning the prayer wheels slowly . The green moss wrapped rocks and the ivy clinging to the walls was absolutely enthralling . It seemed like a slice of Tibet transported to India . The cafe’s on the slopes of the little town had interesting names like ‘ chocolate log ‘ etc. 

 

The by lanes beckoned to tourists with fascinating curios mostly the Tibetan kinds . As you came down from McLeod Ganj you would not miss a grand old church built during the British era called very relevantly as the ‘. St John’s church in the wilderness ‘ ! It is located in a wooded , lonesome area with a large cemetery where rests the souls of more than 18000 people of all ages who perished in the horrendous earthquake .The epitaphs touch many a chord of my heart and I literally lived those grim times all over again . Besides this , the tomb of Lord Elgin one of the viceroys of the East India Company is also inside the church premises. The 5000 odd year old BHAGSUNAG temple is a must see too . It is just a few kms away from McLeod Ganj . 

Winters brought in a lot of snow especially the year we were there. Water froze in the pipes , electric lines were knocked down for over a week and we lived by the light of a petromax 24/7 , with water being ferried from a spring close by. The pine cones gathered by my son during the good weather came to good use to light up our fire places .Undeterred by this tangible misery ,our spirits were high with our family ‘s first initiation to snow , frost and black ice.

It was so exciting at the prospect of making a snow man for my son with all the heaped up snow that lay around . We hammered the snow into shape right at our entrance and dressed him up handsomely with my husband’s cap , tie and scarf knowing for sure that this would surely come under tremendous flak and sure it did ! The minute my husband saw it , he shrieked in disbelief. “ why couldn’t you guys use the best of your clothes to dress this clown up “ ? We scrambled for firing cover ! To add to the histrionics his ‘ runner ‘ ( the office help ) chose that auspicious moment to hand over few files to the Saab . When he saw our carrot nosed , marble eyed snowman shine in the moon with his scarf fluttering in the wind ; he ran away shouting in chaste Nepali “ Saab ko kotha ma booth rahecha “ !! ( there is a ghost in sir ‘s house ).

I truly miss those wonderful days , so tranquil , so surreal ! I miss my son ‘s innocent boyhood days when our lives seemed out of a children’s story book ; mother and son partners in crime ! Such a contented life without other major distractions children of today have . Sheer unadulterated fun.

Where Ravana is God and the Buddha is Lord

One more country off my bucket list, I wrote on Facebook as we were driving to the aerodrome on our way to the Emerald Isle. We were all spruced up as a family for an ecstatic experience that was coming our way. The 55 minute Sri Lanka airlines flight landed us in Colombo the capital of the stunning island country.

We had a whole week to explore and assimilate the varied experiences Sri Lanka had to offer. As we mostly do, we decided to drive. This time from Colombo to the untouched east. Though it was a long drive it was an exhilarating experience. The coconut palms, the lush green paddy fields and the lakes made us feel exuberant. Nature’s abundant beauty !

Dambulla was one first stops which is known for the monastery of the  Golden Buddha and a cave temple that dates back to the 12th century. We were there at midday and the golden Buddha was dazzling in the sunlight. Indeed a visual marvel.

From Dambulla, we headed to Trincomalee on the East Coast, the land of the turquoise green ocean. En route we pulled up for a few pictures of the resplendent, lake at Kantalai. Very picturesque and serene with a fishing boat lazily bobbing up and down against the fading glow of an alluring sunset. A photographers delight !

If your intent is to spend a delightful beach holiday on an unspoiled seashore with soft sands, gentle waters, and balmy weather; it is Trinco for you! It has two prominent beaches Nilaveli and Upuveli, besides of course the Pigeon Island. We decided to stop over at Nilaveli. The suite we stayed at the hotel was indeed a room with a view! It faced the ocean on three sides and was ethereal. Gazing at the sea with changing  bands of blue and green depending on the suns rays was divine. The sea was a shimmering blue at day as though the stars were taking a walk on the water. It changed colors so rapidly from blue to green and aquamarine. Fort Frederick is a historical old Dutch fort in Trinco with the Sea cocooned on three sides. The cool waters lashing against the rocks and breaking into a froth added to the beauty of this ancient fortress.

From Trincomalee we headed towards Kandy. It is the religious and cultural center of Sri Lanka. The secret tooth relic here is believed to be that of the Buddha which was supposed to have been smuggled into Sri Lanka by a princess hidden in her tresses. The world-famous Perahera festival is held here once a year. The sacred tooth is placed in a golden casket that is placed on a brilliantly caparisoned elephant. Many decorated elephants form part of this revered procession which is heralded by thousands of drummers and masked dancers. This procession goes all around the beautiful city of Kandy. It is an opulent sight to behold. Kandy also happens to be one of the oldest cities of Sri Lanka.

Kandy to Sigiriya was a charming journey with enchanting landscapes. Sigiriya is  an ancient rock fortress with a citadel, moat and murals A silent spectator to the vagaries of time. It is indeed a stunning edifice that makes you wonder how it could have been ever constructed at such a height with such finesse during such primeval times. The topmost part of the fort had a huge lion head with the four legs replete with huge claws below. Unfortunately, the head  according to locals had fallen off but the four legs still remain. A mesmerizing piece of art.

Our final destination was Colombo the capital of erstwhile Ceylon. It is surrounded by natural wetlands and lots of greenery. Short trips to GALLE & BENTOTA is worth every penny spent. Galle is famous for the old Dutch fort which is a UNESCO heritage site. Bentota has sandy stretches of beach with white sands, restful with a tangible sense of serenity. Sunset at Bentota is like a kaleidoscope transforming from pinks to orange and gold slowly melting into the deep west. It is ideal for swimming with the scintillating salty sea breeze blowing against you.

In case you are interested to carry home souvenirs, there is a variety you cannot keep off your itinerary . Though I must warn you that the cost is pretty steep. You will be spoiled for choice. Sri Lankan tea is excellent in case you are an avid tea drinker like me. 

Noritake, the famous crockery manufacturer, is worth a visit. Batik is another item worth putting into your shopping basket. Precious and semi precious stones are also a hallmark of Sri Lanka. Like in South India, oil lamps called Pahan are famous and also available for sale.

Seafood lovers, this is a one-stop destination where you can relish different kinds of culinary fare. Without a visit to the Ministry of crab, their flagship restaurant, your seafood cravings will never be satiated. It is a must visit not just for the delicately flavored food but also the ambience and the personal touch. The old Dutch hospital premises has been converted to house this premier restaurant to give it an old world charm. They have retained the structure with very few modifications.

Do pay your tribute to the fallen soldier of the Indian peacekeeping force (IPKF). The monument etched with names of our valiant martyrs whose blood fell on a foreign land, makes your heart thump in muted silence. A reverence beyond compare!

As usual, this was another enchanting holiday. Lived and relived every moment, creating lots of memories for posterity!

Vardaan - the Boon!

When life throws some grey moments, you can also expect some beautiful surprises to follow. Though these may be far and few, they leave an indelible stamp on your inward eye forever!

The pandemic brought untold misery to the world including our family and is still weaving its black veil across the globe. Yet I had something to thank God for - the birth of our first grandchild. Even though none of us could go across to help my daughter , she was blessed with a ‘work from home’ for the entire 9 months of her pregnancy, had plenty of rest and was able to have nourishing food and attention from my son. She enjoyed the 9 months without any stress, not even morning sickness.

The first scan I saw of my little grandie, was just a small dot. And instantly, I started calling him ‘Dotto’ . Soon Dotto started filling up the womb and became quite a busy and active baby. We would wait each day for his news and would keep imagining what he would be like. 

Months galloped and soon we had a virtual baby shower with the entire family. We started looking out for unusual baby names. One thing for sure was that we wanted a traditional Indian name with a strong meaning specially since the probability of him living in a different continent was high. Soon the purchases began .The registers started filling up with names and so did the registry . 

Ah! Those were such interesting days - so much to look forward to! We suddenly realised that time was closing on us and there was still tons to be done, especially since he was coming in the middle of a huge pandemic. Finally, the new furniture moved in , the nursery was done up and the bags for the hospital were packed and ready near the door, just waiting for the baby to press the alarm.

We were trying to fit into the shoes of the most coveted role of our lives - as grandparents. Eventually the countdown began. Since no alarm bells rang, our daughter was taken to the hospital. Video calls kept coming in one after the other and our perpetual question was - do you have any pain? I almost thought that the little one would be born on my son’s birthday . But he was born a day later almost at the same time as his father.

A little angel who lights up our lives like the first beam of the sun’s rays that spills its gold through the skylight - The cutest and sweetest grandson I could have ever wished for, an absolute Vardaan to our family, as his name suggests. 

At last we were able to meet our bundle of joy in the third week of June when he turned 9 months. While our children worked from home, the little boy kept adjusting to his new environment, just as we were trying to handle him with kid gloves. It seemed like redrafting the babyhood of my son. The feeding bottles, little toys, the baby gurgles and cries, the bathtub and the baby wipes, all seemed to have re-visited our home after taking a full circle. 

I realised how different each child is, even though they may belong to the same zodiac sign as one of the parents. While he kept learning , he was teaching us many a lesson too. Our little man is a huge bag of fun and laughter. He keeps us amused with his dancing, his little actions. He notices every little thing like he has magnifying glasses. He babbles a lot now and has his little vocabulary of 3-4 letter words, which he generously shoots at us. Such a marvel of God’s creation! 

By the blessing of God, we have been lucky to have him with us for four full months, again thanks to the pandemic. He came to our home wheeled in a pram and now he is running all around at supersonic speeds. He knows every nook and cranny and our day is made when he swoops into our arms. Our life these days unconditionally rallies around this lovely child.

He will be leaving soon and I know we will be in the doldrums once again without his captivating demeanour. We will miss the pitter patter of his soft feet all over the house, his gurgles and innocent looks. I guess a bane of the nuclear family system and the distances in between. I have already started wondering what he will be up to when we see him next.

Good luck my darling Varu, till we meet again! Know that as you are growing up, we are growing younger to keep pace with you and your pranks!

WOMEN CREATE and COMPLETE !

A very happy women’s day to you !

I recently went through a lot of messages where uplifting the woman was the main thrust. 

Commonly we discuss how men put down women and thrust their whimsical behaviour on them . But I was thinking of another parallel aspect concerning WOMEN . Do we realise that in many households despite the status, women hold the hands of men in ill treating another woman !

Examples are aplenty . The man blames the woman for bearing a girl child but when it comes to cursing the mother of the child, women join the men and why may I ask ? They themselves are women .Where has all that love and compassion gone ? The same mother has a different yardstick for the son and the daughter . How does her conscience allow it ? So susceptible to the make believe societal pressures ??

Another big menace in society is DOWRY. Why don’t the women of most households oppose it vehemently ? Why as a MIL or SIL do you want to count the nuggets and compare and contrast with illiterate people in society ? If I give something that I can afford to my daughter, it is ONLY for her and her only . Why does my daughter become someone lesser by not making her in laws richer ?

Why does a SON become a useless fellow if he stands up for his wife and points the mistakes in you, the mother or other sisters in law ? Don't you as the matriarch of the family have to take a rightful stand ?

Why do we as  educated women allow ourselves to be put down ? The first time somebody pushes you under water , you may take in a few gulps. But that should be the end of it . Keep yourself strong and formidable .

As Gandhiji said “ You must be the change you want to see in the world”.  A woman is a strong instrument of transformation. Literacy is the ability to read and write but true education is the ability to put it into behaviour and action. Let it begin in your very HOME!

REMEMBER, REAL QUEENS ADJUST EACH OTHER’S CROWNS !!!!

D - I - L or. ‘ DIL‘ ?

We have gone past a little more than half of a tumultuous 2020. It has put power brakes on many great ventures of progression . Just as I began to see women marching shoulder to shoulder with men , they are again kind of tied to the hearth , many losing jobs etc ; not to forget the societal shackles unfortunately many women are bound by. But I am sure all will be well once again and soon.

Daughter in law is a word I quite detest. If a girl in the prime of youth is being given away in kanyadaan , to you then does she still remain an outsider all her life ?? Why is she not accepted as the daughter of the household with pride and given equal rights as a daughter ? Emancipation of women does not seem to have changed our mindset.

Modernity is not just about dressing well and having high level certificates . It also means widening our horizon, being large-hearted and in this context accepting  your son’s wife as your own . This  will ensure there is no place for disparity and  all the vicious spaces in our heart ( dil ) is filled with compassion , happiness and joy .

Hope all of you reading this will see much sense in what I say . We need to educate a girl only if we want to give her the freedom to fly !!

So my dear saree  Sakhis , don’t simply bring a D - I - L  but if you do so, make her your ‘ DIL ‘. !!!  💕

Wearing a three shaded hand woven Kanjivaram in gold , mustard , green  the day I brought my  ‘DIL’ home ! 

A SILENT GOODBYE !

With absolute grief , I am compelled to announce the passing over of my mother in law MRS SWARNAM JOHNSON.She was 92 and moved on from this ethereal world across the rainbow bridge peacefully in her sleep on this 21st.

It was a jolt for her large family whose load bearing beams she carried deftly on her shoulders. A mentally and physically robust lady who was multifaceted. She never knew what it was to sit still . An extraordinary chef , who churned out curry powders to papads, pickles , Indian sweets and preserved fruits for the next year’s Christmas cake.; who with absolute ease knew the craft of tickling the taste buds of her kith and kin .

She was born into a large joint Iyengar family from Tamil Nadu who were landlords. She accepted her role as wife and mother to 5 children with utmost ease. She never missed an opportunity to learn something new . She would sew and knit with such flair , that anybody watching would be awe struck. Her heart and soul revolved around her children and grand children .She would look for excuses to spoil them with her talents .

She was up at the break of dawn and after her prayers would settle with her cup of milk with Daddy beside her with his cuppa tea .They would make a spread sheet of the goings on in the city ,combined with sprinklings from the past and present . They were like two love birds chirping away ! A virtue unfortunately not handed over to her children ! It’s only after this that the accelerator would be pressed full throttle for the day !

Her large heartedness was a trait which would make anybody awestruck ; day in and day out , all of her life. Anyone known ,walking into the home at meal times were always welcomed. I was always overwhelmed by the fact, food never ran short, not once. She seemed to have a magic wand ! Her servings were super large and she loved to serve everyone by herself. It was a joke in the home” Mummy’s landslide is arriving “ ! She kept a portion of food for some poor beggar every day on her verandah. That was a ritual she strictly followed.

She was a lady akin to a bottle of champagne , full of fizz ! Her flair for narrating anecdotes coupled with her double dollop of wit was irresistible. Her positivity in the most trying circumstances was incredible. She encouraged her children and grand children to forge ahead and accomplish great heights .

My son Swapnil lived with them for a full 2 years while I was in Manipur. He was in the crucial years of his schooling . She doted on him , indulged him , treated his hungry school friends, sat up with hot coffee during his exams and kept him in great humour. Her report card of him was all summarised in her one sentence “ He is ALL ROUND CLEVER “ !!!!! She was not very proficient in the English language. Hers was a hilarious mix of Tamil and the language the East India Company left behind !! Then came along my daughter ! My MIL could not stop raving about her. She felt that Deep ( as she liked to call her) was a replica of me and it was her perpetual question to my son , “how did you manage that “!! Deepali and Mummy got along like a house on fire. To me it seemed the status she gave her was equal to that of her own grandchildren , if not higher ! She was her NOOR ! Deepu and I would often chuckle “ what would grandma say of her great grand son ?( who is almost here ).It certainly would be ALL ROUND TOO CLEVER !!! Alas , he missed her by just a month.

Mom loved shopping not for her self but for each of us. After landing ( she lived in Nairobi ) one full day’s job would be to make an endless shopping list which resembled the long computerised grocery bills of today ! There were only add ons no subtractions . It was hazardous to say that we liked anything in her presence .They sure would pop up immediately on her list !!!!!

Mummy ,I cannot believe that you have left us . We still feel your presence around. I am sanguine you will be with your Deep through her delivery while none of us are there with her. Stay with our grandson on his tryst with destiny, walk hand in hand with ur great grandson showing him the right path to tread on .Be with each of us your children to help us complete our life’s voyage in the best possible way.

Mummy , I will miss those secret gifts you used to hide and bring me and those delectable Gulab jamuns, ladoos , the picnic hampers for Noel and me during our school days ..I will miss the repetitive stories of how brilliant your Selva was and a myriad other things. I believe in shooting stars and meteors. I shall look out for them in the night sky and when I see one, I will know it is YOU !!